California parents prioritize their children above all else. This is especially true in difficult situations. When you are going through divorce, you probably spend much of your time thinking about them. How will the divorce impact them? Can you do anything to make it easier?
It is important to have an idea of what you will do to broach the topic because of this. Though it is never easy, there are some things you can do to make it easier.
Plan your discussion out
Psychology Today discusses how to tackle talking to your kids about divorce. First, make sure you have a plan in advance. Know what you want to talk about. Know how you want to talk about it. Prepare for questions they may ask. Draw your boundaries in advance. Your children deserve answers, but they should not know every detail of the divorce or what led to it.
Have a unified front with your co-parent. This is crucial in providing your child with a sense of security. They can tell when their parents are on bad terms. But if you choose to work together anyway, it gives more credence to the idea that things will be okay.
Do not hide important things from your child
Be forthcoming with information. Let your child know what will change. Let them know what will stay the same. Tell them which parent is moving out. Do not allow big life changes to come as a surprise.
Finally, ensure your child does not take the blame and guilt onto themselves. This is a common occurrence in children of divorce. Make it well known that this is a result of your relationship and your decision.